What the heck is a Tanja™?

A Tanja is the fastest way to deepen love in a relationship, which leads to more connection, and often to better sex too. We hold Tanjas regularly, and encourage you to come frequently.

A Tanja is a special kind of class. There are no books or lectures. Rather, there are a series of guided exercises, which are designed to help you be more in the moment, more comfortable in your own skin, and more connected with your partner.

If you’re in a relationship, it’s like a tune-up, that keeps things humming smoothly. And if you’re single, it creates magnetism, so that you naturally attract the perfect partner.

We recommend that you come often – each time, you deepen your ability to love and connect a little more in easily.

What’s the structure of the evening?

Typically, we form two circles, and you’ll do exercises with the people in the other circle. But we like to play too, so we vary that format sometimes.

The exercises are designed to:

• Create heart-connection
• Evoke the yin (feminine) and yang (masculine) energy in each of us; this restores the magnetic attraction in relationships, and helps singles attract a partner.
• Create freedom for you to be at ease with strangers and your most intimate partner
• Heal cultural beliefs about sex, relationships, and our bodies
• And much, much more…

The format of these exercises is safe and simple, but powerful at the same time. They might include dialog, looking into someone eyes, or helping your partner move energy. And don’t worry if anything doesn’t make sense, we explain everything in the moment.

Is this event … you know … weird??

We get that question all the time!

We do some things like eye-gazing that might seem weird at first.

I (Ellie) used to think eye-gazing was for recreational drug users, while they’re “under the influence”! I’ve discovered that eye-gazing is the quickest way to really get to be yourself, and see others as they are. Yup, it seems a little strange, but we make even the strange-ness comfortable.

If it intrigues you even a little, this could be something you’ve wanted for ages, but thought was too weird to try. (And if it still seems too much, then this event might not be for you.)

Will anything sexual happen?

No, there’s no nudity, and no sexual activity. We ask and expect everyone to respect common-sense boundaries.

Then how can you possibly say this will impact my sex life?

Dare we say … trust us?

Here’s the thing: great sex happens naturally when you’re completely being yourself, and your partner is completely being themselves. This happens when you’re free of resentments, when you feel love for yourself, and when you accept your partner fully.

(If you think you already have this, we say Congratulations! But since great relationships are designed to push your buttons, we have a hunch that pretty much everyone will benefit from a good Tanja.)

Oh, and we also say this will impact your sex life because our previous guests have told us so … several have said they’ve had the best sex ever after one of these events. If you want more pleasure in your relationship, just register (what do you have to lose?).

Why is it held in the evening?

These events evoke lots of great energy for couples. We like to send you home to play in that energy together.

Is it religious?

No. We don’t preach any religion, and people with all beliefs are welcome.

We often use the term “Spiritual Sexuality.” Spiritual sexuality is simply allowing sex to bring you closer to spirit or to your own best self. You might experience a sense of one-ness with the greater universe, with your partner, or if you are spiritual, with your God, Gods, or Goddesses.

I’m single and I’ve found someone I want to bring. Can we change our registration to a couple’s registration?

We’ll do our best to accomodate it, but sometimes we can’t. Here’s why: when you sign up single, we basically “find” a partner for you, so that we have an even mix of people. If you bring a partner, then we have to find someone else to even out the balance again. Sometimes, it’s pretty easy for us to accomodate your request, other times it’s not. So please check with us and we’ll see what we can do.

I’m single, and I need to cancel. Is that OK?

We know that emergencies happen, and you might sometimes need to cancel. If you can, please help us by finding someone to replace you, or at least giving us as much notice as you can.

I’m single and, when I went to register, it said the registration was closed. Can I still come?

Maybe. We close the singles’ registration early because we want to balance out the numbers of the people for the Tanja. Sometimes though, someone has cancelled and we’re trying to replace them, and you might be the perfect person. If you’re interested in coming, please let us know, and we’ll see if we can work you in!

I’m in a couple, and my partner and I are considering breaking up … should we come?

Tough question.

A Tanja could bring you back together, by reminding you of how important you are to each other. It’s especially valuable for couples who love each other, but want more passion, more desire, or more connection.

However, if you’re on the road for a break-up, a Tanja could possibly accelerate it, by bringing you deeper in touch with your own life’s wishes.

We’re committed to helping you have what you want in life … so if you’ve got questions, please email us and ask away. We can’t tell you if this is a good thing for you, but we’ll be happy to help you better understand what to expect.

Other things we should know?

If you know us at all, you know we don’t recommend things lightly. But we recommend our Tanjas very, very highly.

Still got questions?

If you’ve still got questions, send us an email.